Finding Compassion Through Change

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We are ever-evolving beings living in an ever-evolving world. What’s constant is change: the seasons changing, our bodies changing, our environments changing. It is nothing but a shift from what was, to what is. Change has no emotional package that comes with it. Our feelings about it do. We can either look at the seasons changing in a positive or negative light: embracing what is or holding on to what was - like missing the springtime where the breeze was cool and the sun-kissed your face. 

Change brings about loss - loss of what was.

When we hold on to the past too tightly, we lose sight of the beauty of now: long summer nights, refreshing ocean water. Change is neutral but often times we see it through a conditioned lens without even recognizing it. Over time, we receive external feedback from life events, other’s words, our culture, and community that impact our internal world making it quite challenging to loosen our grip of what was and embrace what is. But this word loss; sometimes change isn’t even looked at as a loss, but when we become irritable, frustrated, worried, or anxious, more often than not, those feelings are stemmed from wanting the present to be something it’s not. Our attitude about change is what can create tension, just like if winter resisted spring, the flowers would not bloom.

But, what if we welcomed change and let it mold our present moment? We become free when we see the present has everything we need. It could very well be a moment our past self was hoping for or our future self would long for. 

Do not say, ‘Why were the old days better than these?’ For it is not wise to ask such questions.” - Ecclesiastes 7:10

Since we live in a fallen world, however, we’ll have this yearning for what was or what is to come. This is not to discourage us; rather to open ourselves to receive mercy and compassion. We are designed to live in harmony and peace, but while we’re here on earth, they will be fighting for our attention. 

But we’ve been given an incredible mind that literally has the power to be renewed every day (Romans 12:2). Today is a chance to show compassion for change. Just like the seasons of the weather, each one allows the next to fully show up in its time, allowing it to be and evolve. We are being asked to do the same with our life.

With change comes a new season - a season that shapes us. If we are awake and accepting of this, we are able to let it be, giving us space to tune in and ask “what is being cultivated in me now?” “How can I be shaped by this season instead of resisting it?” What seeds are growing? What flowers are blooming in your garden?

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